COMMITMENT

When You Cheated on Your Partner, Is Disclosure the Option?

So, you’ve cheated on your partner and are now struggling with the aftermath.

You have guilt and lots of other emotions swirling around inside you. In fact, there are two different parts of you telling you to do vastly different things.

On the one hand, you feel that you should tell your partner what happened and be honest. The other half says that you shouldn’t tell at all. In fact, you may have already convinced yourself that you will keep this hidden from your partner at all costs.

What you decide to do now will have great ramifications for your relationship in the future.

What should you do?

Emotional Unavailability – When Your Partner Doesn’t Show Feelings

When we commit to a relationship, we usually expect that our partner will have roughly the same level of emotional involvement that we have. Many of us hope to find a soul-mate, a partner who can share and understand our feelings and ways of thinking on an intensely personal level. Others don’t expect such an intense level of involvement and feel more comfortable maintaining personal privacy in the relationship.

Conflicts may arise when partners have different about how close they should become. One partner may feel emotionally stranded, feeling abandoned and craving more closeness, while the other partner may feel smothered or pressured into providing more of his or her emotional self than can possibly be given. 

Breaking Free of Loneliness

 

Only the lonely
Know the way I feel tonight
Only the lonely
Know this feeling ain’t right
Roy Orbison

If you feel lonely, you’re not alone.

Loneliness is a subjective sense of isolation – a feeling of not being able to connect with other people, a sense of being apart. As humans, we feel the need to be with other people. We need to relate to others, to get involved in their lives, to work with them, and to express our emotions around other people. Our social needs are nearly as powerful as our other basic needs, like our needs for food, water, and shelter.

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? Myths and Facts

Clearly, whenever you’ve been cheated on, there are many feelings that arise.

However, some of these emotions could be based on myths about those who cheat. And that can cause you to make decisions based on faulty information.

If you are trying to cope with a partner’s infidelity, get the facts and reject the myths.

The Positive Impact of Premarital Counseling – 7 Ways Your Relationship Can Benefit

Many couples consider premarital counseling as something for those who really don’t know what they want out of a marriage.

Yet, that is far from the truth. In reality, premarital counseling should be a prerequisite for any couple looking to get married.

How can it benefit and strengthen your relationship?

Time to Break Up? – Look for These Signs

We all know it, but it can be difficult to admit—love isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship.

People grow apart, problems arise, and relationships can become stagnant.

If you’re experiencing these issues or any of the following, it might be time to end things with your partner.

Procrastination Hurts Relationships

Almost everyone has been affected by procrastination at one time or another –  when we or someone we rely on is compelled to put of to another day or time, to endlessly delay completing tje task at hand. For some people it’s a [persistent problem while for others it happens only in certain areas of their lives. The result is the same for everyone – increased anxiety, wasted time, poor performance, missed opportunities, guilt, making excuses and avoiding people who depend on us.

It can cause suffering in a committed relationship, when one partner delays or avoids keeping promises or agreements, putting the relationship at risk. And relationships outside the home – friendships; at work and in the community – can suffer. Being unreliable can jeopardize one’s personal reputation. There are better ways of dealing with the demands of our everyday lives, once we accept that we are a procrastinator and make a commitment to change.

How to Argue and Stay Happy

Healthy Arguments

A good argument has an upside – provided that feelings aren’t hurt and that partners fight fair. While occasional arguments might be unavoidable, a pattern of habitual fighting left unchecked can put the relationship at risk. Arguments are not necessarily a sign of a failed relationship or that the love is fading. They are often just a sign that the partners are expressing their own individuality, and this is healthy.

Finding Intimacy

Many people search for that special intimacy in their relationship. Some of us search our entire lives for a feeling of oneness with another person. It’s hard to describe, really, what we search for, but we know it when we finally achieve it. Maybe we tire of that dark feeling of being alone as we struggle through life. If only there were someone else here, we say to ourselves, who could understand and share these burdens. Then it wouldn’t be so lonely. It wouldn’t be so hard.