When it comes to who the breadwinner is in the family, times are changing.
According to the Pew Research Center, in 1960, 11% of American families had a woman as the primary wage earner. Today, that number has climbed to 40%.
This change in gender roles can have an impact on relationships. How so?
Almost everyone has been affected by procrastination at one time or another – when we or someone we rely on is compelled to put of to another day or time, to endlessly delay completing tje task at hand. For some people it’s a [persistent problem while for others it happens only in certain areas of their lives. The result is the same for everyone – increased anxiety, wasted time, poor performance, missed opportunities, guilt, making excuses and avoiding people who depend on us.
It can cause suffering in a committed relationship, when one partner delays or avoids keeping promises or agreements, putting the relationship at risk. And relationships outside the home – friendships; at work and in the community – can suffer. Being unreliable can jeopardize one’s personal reputation. There are better ways of dealing with the demands of our everyday lives, once we accept that we are a procrastinator and make a commitment to change.
Dirty fighting can weaken and ultimately break a relationship in the same way that rust weakens a piece of metal. Dirty fighting breaks the bonds of intimacy and causes cracks in the foundation of the relationship. These cracks spread and just like rusty metal eventually breaks apart, at some point the relationship collapses. Both of you ultimately suffer. Here are some toxic communication patterns to avoid:
A good argument has an upside – provided that feelings aren’t hurt and that partners fight fair. While occasional arguments might be unavoidable, a pattern of habitual fighting left unchecked can put the relationship at risk. Arguments are not necessarily a sign of a failed relationship or that the love is fading. They are often just a sign that the partners are expressing their own individuality, and this is healthy.