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	<title>Better Relationships &#187; love at first sight</title>
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		<title>How Does It Feel To Fall In Love?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Jan 2017 19:09:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[MEN'S ISSUES]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Numerous researchers have examined the phenomenon of being in love. This refers to the stage of feeling whole and complete once we have found someone who matches the image we carry around with us of the person we have been searching for – that is, someone who has the positive and negative qualities of an imperfect parent from our childhood. The experience of being in love happens when two people first meet, when the holes in our lives are filled with each other’s positive qualities. This is followed eventually by a power struggle when the partner’s negative qualities begin to emerge. One theory says that “romantic love is supposed to end.” Once the power struggle is resolved, a more mature, committed love can begin. The first quality of being in love is recognition. This is the strange feeling of familiarity with someone we have just met. “I feel as if I’ve known you my whole life.” The qualities of the person we are attracted tap into our needs from childhood – and, in a sense, we have held this image in our minds since childhood. When we find a person with these qualities, we do feel as if we have known this person forever. Next is timelessness. “Even though we just met, I can’t remember when I didn’t know you.” Lovers can spend hours with each other, embracing and drawing on the feeling of being alive with that person, so that time seems to vanish. The cocoon of love becomes everything. Third is reunification. Lovers find the parts of themselves that are missing through the other person. “I no longer feel alone. When I’m with you I feel complete and connected to things. I feel at one with the world.” In truth, they have found through each other what was missing in themselves. Last is a feeling of necessity. We come to feel that we need the other person. “I can’t imagine what it would be like without you. I don’t think I could live without you.” You feel safe with your partner, and, for perhaps the first time, you [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Starting a New Relationship</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Sep 2016 22:58:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A new relationship has many emotional and psychological aspects that in some ways can be compared to the birth of a new baby. For example, before a baby is born it is usually safe inside the mother’s womb and it depends only on the immediate environment for everything it needs.  In a similar way, just before you meet each other, you and your new partner will probably be safe and secure, relying mostly on yourselves and your immediate environments to supply your needs. After meeting each other and feeling connected, your relationship will begin to take on a life of its own. In time, when your connection develops into a loving bond, your relationship will be “born” and when this happens, like a baby leaving the womb, life will begin to change for both of you. Like the baby relying on its caretakers for everything, in your newborn relationship, you will both start relying on each other for your primary emotional needs – care, nurturing and love &#8211; and when you give this to each other you are both feeding the relationship the &#8220;food&#8221; that it needs to survive and grow. New parents tend to be anxious, excited and sometimes they can be a bit jumpy since they don’t have much experience caring for a baby. And if you were a new parent and you heard your baby crying, while you may not know exactly what to do, whatever you did you would do it gently. And you would soon learn what worked and what didn&#8217;t work. For example,  if you were a new parent, when your efforts to soothe the baby actually calmed it down you would realize that not knowing what to do or say is okay because all you need to do, and all you’re responsible for doing, is to care, be gentle, and be attentive to the infant. You certainly wouldn’t respond to the infant’s cries as though your baby knew better, and you wouldn’t complain to your baby or yell at it or drink or otherwise put your baby in harm’s way. Now apply this [&#8230;]]]></description>
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