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		<title>7 Tips for Ending a Love Relationship with Grace, Dignity and Compassion</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 22 Sep 2018 20:25:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It’s not uncommon to fall out of love with someone. Even though you have been close for a long time, you may feel that now is the time to end the relationship. The question then becomes, what’s the best way to go about it? Even if you feel that you’re no longer in love, you probably still care for your partner to a degree, and you want to break up on as best of terms as possible. Here are some tips on how you can end your love relationship with grace, dignity, and compassion. 1. Talk with Your Partner Face to Face If you feel safe doing so, talking to your partner face-to-face about how you feel is very important. At the same time, though, it can be very hard. That’s to be expected. After all, ending a relationship, especially one where partners have been together for a while, is never easy. That’s why you owe it to your partner to do it in person, rather than over the phone, messenger, or even text message (yes, it happens!). 2. Prepare for It Before you have this difficult conversation, take the time to organize your thoughts. Write down some notes, or an outline, for why you are making this decision. You don’t have to read directly from it when the time comes. Although, it can be helpful as a guide in the moment. Also, don’t focus on the negative reasons why you are ending the relationship. Let your partner know all of the positive things that you think in connection with them and how much you have appreciated their presence. 3. Make it About Yourself Don’t blame your partner for the relationship ending. Instead, make it about yourself and give your reasons why. Putting all of the blame on your partner for the relationship ending isn’t fair, as they are not the one deciding to call it quits. It’s certainly not a way to show grace, dignity, and compassion. In fact, it will guarantee to drive a wedge between you and your ex-partner, only creating an emotional wound. Instead, own your [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>When You Cheated on Your Partner, Is Disclosure the Best Option?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jun 2018 22:25:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So, you’ve cheated on your partner and are now struggling with the aftermath. You have guilt and lots of other emotions swirling around inside you. In fact, there are two different parts of you telling you to do vastly different things. On the one hand, you feel that you should tell your partner what happened and be honest. The other half says that you shouldn’t tell at all. In fact, you may have already convinced yourself that you will keep this hidden from your partner at all costs. What you decide to do now will have great ramifications for your relationship in the future. What should you do? Does Your Partner Deserve the Truth? One question to ask yourself is whether or not your partner deserves to know the truth. Note the keyword: deserves. This is different from whether or not your partner should or should not know the truth. In fact, the word “deserves” itself refers to worthiness. In any healthy relationship, your partner is deserving of knowing everything about you. Your partner ought to be the one person in your life that you can say anything to. But, if you have cheated on your partner, you can safely assume assume that your relationship is not healthy. So you need to take a good look at why you cheated and determine if its time for you to leave. If you want to continue the relationship and do your part to make it healthy, is not your partner worthy enough to know what happened? Don’t they deserve to know the truth? What Are the Consequences of Not Disclosing What Happened? You also need to weigh the consequences of what will happen if you do or do not disclose the affair. On the one hand, if you don’t say anything, your relationship stays as it has been. In fact, you may even feel that you have gotten away with the affair. So the short-term consequence could be favorable to you. This is especially true if you are seeking to avoid conflict with your partner. However, on the other hand, over the [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Time to Break Up? – Look for These Signs</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Feb 2018 03:07:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[We all know it, but it can be difficult to admit—love isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship. People grow apart, problems arise, and relationships can become stagnant. If you’re experiencing these issues or any of the following, it might be time to end things with your partner. You Aren’t Seeing Eye to Eye Conflict is an inevitable and healthy part of every relationship… but only to a certain extent. Disagreement becomes a problem when you can no longer see things from your partner’s perspective. Of course, you and your partner don’t have to agree on everything. But when you can’t even understand where they’re coming from, you cannot respect them. Conflict also becomes a problem when you have the same fight over and over and over again. Some things need to be put to rest. But if you keep coming back to the same problem, the issue might be bigger than you originally thought. It’s one thing to argue over the color your partner chose for the dining room walls, but it’s quite another to continually disagree about the big things. Whether or not to get married, have kids, or accept a job offer in a different state are all common reasons for terminating a relationship. You’re the Only One Putting in the Effort It takes two to tango, and both of you need to be active participants in the relationship. Do you feel like your partner can’t meet you halfway? Do you feel like you&#8217;re working alone to fix what doesn&#8217;t work? If so, this could be the sign of a big problem. Relationships aren’t always 50/50, especially when external stressors arise. The death of a family member, the loss of a job, or mental health struggles are all reasons the relationship may teeter to 60/40 or even 80/20. But it should always even out, eventually. You should never be the only one putting forth the effort. Things That Were Just Quirky Now Drive You Insane There are many traits that people push under the rug or don’t mind at the beginning of a relationship. But these things [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Recovery From a Breakup</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 17 Oct 2016 22:25:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Most couples who end their long term relations are forced to come to terms with a number of fears. &#8220;What will people say? Who can I trust to talk to? How can I handle my partner’s anger toward me? How can I deal with my own anger? Am I a complete failure? How can I be a single parent? Will I be able to keep my children? What about money? Can I handle my loneliness? Am I completely unlovable? Will I ever love anyone else again? Do I have the energy for this much change?&#8221; When we hold on to our fears and refuse to do anything about them we increase the likelihood that these will be the very areas where we experience trouble. Loneliness The loneliness after a breakup can feel intolerable. The finality of the relationship, the uncertainty about the future and the knowledge that your partner will no longer be there to comfort you or to spend time with you, can all contribute to an empty feeling that won’t easily go away. An effective way to cope with a breakup is to redefine what’s happened. For example, redefine ‘loneliness’ as ‘aloneness’ and realize that being alone gives you freedom to create a new future. In the same way, you can redefine ‘emptiness’ as a feeling of peace, contentment and fulfillment. Looking into oneself and liking what one sees is a key to making the shift to aloneness. Get into being alone. It is a precious but tenuous gift that can disappear to quickly from one’s life. Friendships The end of your relationship is a true test of just who your friends really are. It is important to draw on the emotional support of friends during and after a breakup. Unfortunately many of your friends were those who knew you as a couple &#8211; and now they often must choose between you. Even those who try to stay neutral may find this to be difficult. Many of them may feel that your breakup will somehow threaten their own relationship and some friends may now find it hard to [&#8230;]]]></description>
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