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		<title>Worry, Worry</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Sep 2020 22:24:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. It’s a good thing that almost all of us worry. Think of worry as a built-in alarm device. When it is used wisely, it alerts us to danger and prompts us to navigate our way through a maze of solutions to life’s various problems. We need to think through our options when we are faced with problems, weighing the benefits and pitfalls of each alternative, and then come up with the best solution. From there we take action which, we hope, solves the problem. Worry is helpful when it is used at the right time and at the right level for resolving our difficulties. Like many things in life, however, too little worry, or too much of it, can be harmful. Too Little Too little worry can result in impulsive decisions which may result in unfortunate consequences. Indeed, some people are high risk-takers who may not worry enough about problems – they may win, but just as often, they lose. Others avoid worry through substance abuse or other addictive behaviors and then lack the motivation and insight to deal realistically with life’s expected problems. Similarly, a laid-back, come-what-may approach, while it has some merits, sometimes suggests passivity and a lack of ability to participate in the complexities of life&#8217;s experiences. Too Much As we all know, some people worry too much. Rather than solving a problem, too much worry becomes the problem. Not only does excessive worry create personal suffering, but it also affects the people around the worrier. Worry is a fairly common, but potentially serious, condition. The stress which accompanies worry can have serious physical implications, including an increased risk for blood pressure, heart ailments and immune system deficiencies. Worrying About Things We Can’t Control Most people who worry excessively are well aware of their tendencies, although some simply view it as their normal state of affairs. (Indeed, some people like to worry because they feel that their mind [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Staying Healthy at Work</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Aug 2019 05:00:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Are You Working Hard or Hardly Working? (Or Both?) The atmosphere of the workplace has changed dramatically in recent times. Ever since the exploitative practices of the industrial revolution were removed through legislation, work has been defined as a place where a person could find fulfillment through a job which was rewarding and paid a fair wage. But this definition has reverted in recent years to one in which the needs of the employee have become less important. Finding personal fulfillment through our work has become more of a challenge. Progressive occupational stress leading to job burnout has become a painful reality for many people. This is especially true during times of high unemployment – when the workers who are still employed are expected to carry the load of those who are no longer with the company. The incidence of job burnout becomes increasingly widespread as corporations merge and the interests of the stockholders come to predominate business policies jobs are eliminated or combined because of technological innovation more production moved overseas where labor costs are cheaper downsizing becomes more frequent (where the worker is expected to do more work for less money) automation displaces production employees layoffs occur with alarming frequency. Many people are working longer hours and taking on more responsibilities just to “stay in place.” It seems to be a fading memory when one income could support a family, now it usually takes two – and this has a major impact on the dynamics of raising a family and interpersonal relationships. As a result of these changes in the workplace, stress has increased dramatically for some workers. Job stress is the result of overload on our senses and our inability to complete tasks. We are presented with more demands, information, stimuli, and intensity than we can take in and process. The end result of prolonged exposure to this stress is job burnout. We progressively shut down under the demands placed on us from the outside world. When we have difficulty in setting priorities and putting our lives into balance, we are more prone to suffer from burnout. [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Being Assertive</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Aug 2019 23:43:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever heard yourself say, “I’m a nice person. I’m a polite person. I’d never intentionally do anything to hurt anybody. So why don’t other people give me the respect I deserve?” The problem could well be due to a difficulty with assertion. Maybe you aren’t showing your nice, polite, and respectful qualities to other people. Unless they can see who you truly are, underneath it all, other people might not know how you expect to be treated. And this can lead to some unhappy experiences. At the heart of assertion (also known as assertiveness) is your ability to know who you are and what you stand for – and then to express these qualities effectively in everyday interactions with other people. Expressing yourself effectively involves maintaining respect for the rights and feelings of others. Assertion is not aggression. People who are assertive know that they can deal with the world much more effectively if they do not resort to violence or other aggressive responses. In many ways, assertiveness is the exact opposite of aggression – assertion enhances constructive communication and cooperation between people, while aggression shuts it down. And assertion is not manipulation. Most people are aware, at some level, when they are being manipulated – which can lead to distrust and a lack of respect, for both parties. Manipulation involves hiding behind a mask. Assertion means tearing off the mask and happily announcing to the world who you truly are. Assertion is reality-tested freedom. We see instances of non-assertive behavior around us every day. Most people who lack an assertive style are simply those who want to keep the peace. For the most part, they want goodness and cooperation between people. However, they often pay a high price for this in terms of functioning effectively in the world. There are negative consequences associated with the non-assertive style. For example, those who are not assertive allow their feelings and boundaries to be violated by others. They believe that they do not have the right to their own feelings, beliefs or opinions – and even if they do, they [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Healthy Pleasure</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Mar 2019 21:39:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[  Engaging in Simple, Healthy Pleasures Can Restore Balance to our Hectic Lives The brain has several pleasure centers which are activated by chemicals which speed satisfying sensations from one nerve to the next. Children the world over, when they are left alone to do what they choose, engage in endless hours of play. They pursue fun. Childhood may be the time in life when our brains are trained to experience pleasure. If we accomplish this task well as children, we may have healthier lives as adults — as long as we don’t lose the ability to play that we acquired in childhood. Pleasure guides us to better health. When experiences are enjoyable, we want more of them. Our bodies tell us that sleep, reproduction, eating, companionship, and exercise – to name just a few of our common daily activities – are enjoyable. Our survival depends on engaging in these activities. And we define these basic actions as sources of fun or pleasure, and this may explain why we feel impelled to engage in them. A &#8216;Mindset&#8217; for Healthy Pleasure Think about what children do when they play. They lose themselves in the pleasure of the moment. We have all observed children at play. They glow with pleasure — they shout, smile, and move their bodies. Engrossed in their world of play, they are aware of neither the past nor the future. There is only the moment. As adults, we also have an ability to shift our awareness from rational and logical concerns to a level which is freer and centered on the moment. People who can shift appropriately between the “there and then” to the “here and now” are good at reality testing and adapting to the demands of the world. They can draw on both their thought processes and their ability to take effective action. What would happen if these behaviors were not pleasurable? Eating would disappear and sleep would vanish. We could no longer survive. Balancing Fun and Work Balance is the key to understanding the role of having fun vs. meeting real-world obligations in our lives. [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>How Looking At Your Past Can Create Business Success Today</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Nov 2018 00:15:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; Everyone has a past. Our histories inform who we are, often impacting the decisions we make in the present. However, what happens when your past becomes a barrier to creating today&#8217;s business success? This is an important question to consider as you build your business. Believe it or not, the obstacles that you face in reaching your goals are not always the ones in front of you. Instead, the choices you make today can be also be influenced by the long shadow that you carry behind you. And these choices can make or break your business. That’s why it’s important to look at your past when trying to create business success today. Embrace Lessons Learned in the Past Think about some examples from your past or lessons you learned that have continued to influence you today. For example, let’s say that you were shy as a child. Maybe you learned to be shy because you found it hard to trust others. You discovered that when you told someone a secret, they didn’t keep it to themselves. Instead, they told the whole class, embarrassing you in the process. Ultimately, you learned to keep to yourself. However, when running a business you often need to interact and trust other people, and speak openly and with authority. While this may be hard for you to do now, there are effective ways of dealing with shyness, mistrust and other underlying issues. How Experiences Shape Who You Are Humans usually make decisions based on what has occurred in their past. This makes sense when you think about it. If you touch a pot that has been sitting on a hot stove, you learn quickly not to touch it again until it is cool. The same is true when attempting to create business success. For example, let’s say that you learned early-on about taking risks. You were the child that loved to climb trees or explore the woods near the neighborhood. Now, as a business owner, you feel comfortable taking risks (especially calculated ones) if they can improve your bottom line. This didn’t come out of [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>When She’s Smarter Than Him: How Intellectual Incompatibility Affects Relationships</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Oct 2018 19:56:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; When you think about compatibility, what comes to mind? Obviously having similar interests is important, such as what you like to do for fun. Another aspect often is having similar life goals and whether or not you are both on the same journey together. However, did you ever consider how intellectual incompatibility could affect your relationship? It’s not simply a stand-alone issue. In fact, intellectual incompatibility can influence other areas of relationship compatibility. If you are finding yourself struggling with your relationship, it may be that you need to consider whether you and your partner are intellectually compatible. What Is Intellectual Compatibility? Intellectual compatibility means that both you and your partner align when it comes to one another’s knowledge and intellectual capacity. Merriam-Webster considers the definition of intelligence to be “the ability to learn or understand or to deal with new or trying situations.” Now take a moment to consider that. Intelligence is more than simply passing tests or even earning a college degree. The three key words to take away from that definition are: learn, understand, and deal. And those words are much more relevant to the success of a relationship than whether one person is smarter than the other. Learning Matters in Relationships Believe it or not, the ability to learn is critical to relationship success. Granted, everyone has different styles of learning. Maybe you are more of a “hands-on” learner, while your partner learns best from reading. We all share traits of the three major learning styles: visual, kinesthetic, and auditory. And that’s not a problem. What actually matters about learning is: Your willingness to learn, grow, and improve yourself Your capacity to apply that learning to your life So, if you and your partner have different perspectives on learning, then there may be a relationship mismatch. Also, if one of you isn’t willing to learn at all, then how can you both be able to grow together in a relationship? After all, learning about one another is key to creating a strong relationship bond. Understanding One Another When you and your partner learn something new about [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Financial Disagreements: 3 Keys to Avoid Them Destroying Your Relationship</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Mar 2018 00:16:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There’s an old saying that goes, “Money is the root of all evil.” While money may not be responsible for all the problems a couple may have, it’s definitely a double-edged sword. Although money can empower couples to make their own decisions, it also can cause financial disagreements and drive couples apart. Every couple has disagreements. They go hand-in-hand with any relationship. However, financial disagreements can be a particularly difficult problem. In fact, money matters and differing viewpoints regarding finances are at the top of the list of reason why couples separate or divorce. To avoid letting this issue destroy your relationship, consider these three important key points. 1. Communicate Early and Often About Finances Like with everything else in a relationship, communication is also key when it comes to finances. Even when in the dating phase, it is helpful to talk about money. Regardless of which stage you are in a relationship, consider applying these ideas: Know whether or not your partner has significant debt. Get a clear understanding of your income, expenses, and debt. Create a household budget together and stick to it. Review the household finances together, at least monthly. If considering a major purchase, review all of the information and discuss it before making a decision. When a financial decision requires a lot of work, divide tasks. Then, report back to each other with your findings. Make it a regular habit to talk about the family finances. This ensures both of you are engaged and have a voice when it comes to money matters. 2. Work Together to Prepare for the Future Together, envision where you see yourselves at 10, 20, or 30 years down the road. Do you want to have children? Are you interested in taking an extended trip? Or do you want to purchase a second home? As you discuss these things, are both your visions in alignment? If not, then you both may have some work to do. Remember that not every couple is going to align on every major issue. Some disagreement should be expected. Yet, you both should be in [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>When She Earns More Money Than Him – How Will The Relationship Be Affected?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Mar 2018 02:44:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When it comes to who the breadwinner is in the family, times are changing. According to the Pew Research Center, in 1960, 11% of American families had a woman as the primary wage earner. Today, that number has climbed to 40%. This change in gender roles can have an impact on relationships. How so? A New World but Old Egos Remain In the modern world, many aspects of society that were considered “traditional” have been upended. Often, this is for the better. Interestingly, though, many men hold onto old notions of what it means to be the primary breadwinner. Even if they have forward-thinking views on other issues, this particular matter may still hold fast. Why? It is because many men are holding onto older concepts of what it is to be a man. Plus, ego comes into play. Regardless of gender, jobs and how much money one earns are connected to ego. Work becomes a significant factor for how one defines themselves as a person. Defining Your Own Relationship It is important for couples to focus more on what is important for their relationship rather than societal conventions. Feeling that you have to fit into some kind of mold or strict definition can only cause stress in the relationship. Rather, sit down together and have an honest dialogue. Especially, discuss finances and how they affect your household. Remember, one of the major causes couples cite when it comes to divorce is disagreeing about money. Creating an Equal Relationship When ‘she’ makes more money than ‘he’ does, one of the issues that arise is the perceived difference in power. ‘He’ can feel he has less power when ‘she’ makes significantly more money. This is particularly true when it comes to making financial decisions. However, when partners openly discuss their concerns, it&#8217;s easier to: agree on who pays which household bills divide chores in a way that is equitable for both partners make major financial decisions, such as home buying or investments, together. Of course, both partners want to be able to contribute to the success of the household and the [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Extreme Grief After a Job Loss Is Real – Look for These Symptoms</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2018 01:54:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Losing your job hurts—plain and simple. For some, it&#8217;s devastating. Not only can it hurt your financial welfare, it can cause emotional pain and suffering. Depending on your reactions to this crisis, it can severely impact your relationships with family and friends. In fact, for some people a job loss is similar to hearing about the death of a loved one. And there are reasons why you may feel this loss so deeply. It’s a common practice in much of today’s society to place our identity in our job and in our career. For example, you may have based your self-worth and self-esteem on your job responsibilities, or on your coworkers’ respect for you, or on your job title, or your workplace relationships, and losing any of these can mean losing part or all of your personal identity. The grief that follows a job loss is a natural and very real. Like most significant losses, the side effects can be painful and often happen unexpectedly. But there is a way through this loss that can create growth and healthy changes. Let’s look at how this might happen and what steps to take going forward. Denial of Job Loss The days and weeks after a job loss can be the most difficult. Being in a state of shock is typical. Many people report not being able to find their way home after hearing that they’ve been terminated. Some try to escape from this shock by denying the painful feelings of loss. For example, you may try to pretend that life goes on as usual. Despite no longer having an income, you carry on as though nothing happened. Or, when people ask you how you are, you say that you’ve never been better. But it’s all a facade—a brave but futile attempt to conceal how you’re really feeling. Avoidance of Social Situations When someone loses a job, others are naturally concerned for them. For example, people may ask you about your plans for the future or try to assure you that you’ll quickly find a better job. While they have good intentions, [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		<title>Can Money Buy Happiness?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 14 Jan 2017 00:44:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jim Swaniger]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The simple answer to this question is &#8216;No&#8217;. In most cases money can’t buy true happiness. It seldom if ever makes a bad relationship good, nor can it improve intimacy in a relationship. People with the highest incomes often have to work long hours, and many of them quit these jobs and find work that brings them greater life satisfaction. Once we adapt to higher incomes, it can soon lose its appeal. After a promotion  and higher salary, a person often feels greater life satisfaction and happiness but in less than about three months, the higher salary can lose its impact on happiness levels. Once we have a higher income we can take it for granted. As we accumulate more material possessions, our expectations rise. The things we once worked so hard for no longer make us happy. Our marriage and our relationships with our children suffer when our primary focus is making or having more wealth. Then we work even harder to get to the next level. And the same thing happens – we adapt to the higher level, and then within three months or so our happiness levels drop again. We end up on a treadmill, working harder and searching for more, then adapting to the higher levels. Happiness is hard to find if we look for it through monetary gain and material possessions. Making money can be like a drug addiction. We need more and more – and then we adapt to the higher levels. It becomes a never-ending cycle. If we grew up in an emotionally empty home and then succeed later in life, the financial wealth we have today can&#8217;t erase our history.The emotional pain and emptiness from our childhood remains. In fact, the more money we have, the more we a vulnerable to feeling the emptiness because of the contrast between our internal and external worlds. Finding happiness, either within ourselves or in our relationship, does not lie in making more money. It is found within. When money doesn&#8217;t improve the quality of your life, there are many other ways to achieve a more [&#8230;]]]></description>
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